Mrs. Brenda Joyce Carter

March 28, 1947 - December 16, 2020

Mrs. Brenda Joyce Carter

March 28, 1947 - December 16, 2020


Brenda Joyce Alford was born March 28, 1947 to Mary Carroll and Curtis Alford in Weleetka, Oklahoma. She was the oldest of two children. At age 4, she lost her mother and was raised by her grandmother, Gracie B. Carroll. Brenda accepted Christ at an early age. She attended Weleetka Public Schools where she participated in band playing the flute. Brenda met the love of her life, Robert Ronnie Lee Carter, Sr. while attending school in Weleetka. In their union, they were blessed with four wonderful children: Robert Jr., Evelyn, Diana and Gwenetta.

Brenda was self-taught and highly intelligent. She worked many jobs over the course of her life. She was a proud member of the Johnson Co. Sherriff’s Dept. as well as Southwestern Bell, AT&T. But the job she was most proud of was Emery World Wide where she dispatched cargo planes and made great use of her ability to speak many languages. She later retired from Osage Casino in 2015.

Brenda spent much of her time teach her grandchildren “things that were incorrect in history books” and to always “tell the truth.” Brenda was a kindhearted person even if she didn’t have much, she would share with you what she did have.

A self-proclaimed “nosey” person, she always wanted to know what was going on with her family. She was always willing to offer a stern or kind word and plenty of prayer. Brenda was very proud to see four generations of women thrive and prosper.

There isn’t one word to describe Brenda. She answered to many names: Mom, Grandma or “uh-huh” as she was affectionately called by her great-granddaughters. Se was one of a kind and will be missed dearly.

As sad as it is to let her go, let’s all get excited for the reunion that has been a long time coming. Those meeting her at Heaven’s Gate include her grandmother, Gracie B. Carroll, aunt, Lee Etta Hines, uncle, Jack “JC” Carroll, uncle, Lee Edward Carroll, mother, Mary Carroll, brother, Anthony Cleveland, husband, Robert Ronnie Lee Carter, Sr. and her daughter, Gwenetta Carter.

Those left to cherish her memories are her children: Robert Ronnie Lee Carter, Jr. (Sharron), Evelyn Carter and Diana Carter of Tulsa; her eight grandkids: Darnell Carter of Tulsa, Lanaisha Smith of Owasso, Rondale (Jalisa) Smith of Tulsa, Brandon Carter (Loretta) of Kansas, Daisha Mays, Robert Carter, Cedric Robinson and Carl Carter of Tulsa; six great-grandkids, in-laws in Kansas and Arkansas as well as a host of nieces, nephews, cousins and extended family.

Visitation will be held on Monday, December 28, from 12:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. at Butler-Stumpff & Dyer Funeral Home, 2103 E 3rd Street, Tulsa, OK 74104. 

A graveside service will be held on Tuesday, December 29, 11:00 a.m., at Fairlawn Cemetery, Weleetka, Oklahoma. 

Graveside Service

  • Date & Time: December 29, 2020 (11:00 AM)
  • Venue: Fairlawn Cemetery
  • Location: Weleetka, Oklahoma - (Get Directions)


  • Date & Time: December 28, 2020 (12:00 PM - 8:00 PM)
  • Venue: Butler-Stumpff & Dyer Funeral Home & Crematory
  • Location: 2103 E 3rd St Tulsa, OK 74104 - (Get Directions)

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2 responses to Mrs. Brenda Joyce Carter

  1. Brenda and. I were raised together by our grandmother along with Anthony she was always NY rock. I could call her whenever I needed help no matter what and she came.when I was I'll she came over several times a day to check on me in addition to spending every night with me. We dubbed ourselves sister-cousins.she was truly more of a sister to me than a cousin. I loved her because of her dedication to her friends and family because her dedication was always 100 percent.I will truly miss her. She has been there for me all my life.I loved her with all my heart.

  2. Lisa Ellis says:

    To my cousins my deepest condolences on the loss of cousin Brenda. You guys are in my prayers. Sorry that I can't be with on that day. But I'll be with you in spirit. May God strengthen and comfort my family as the prepare to lay there mom to rest. Love you guys. Lisa

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